TILT 6 Reasons You Should Put Yourself First


Have you ever felt that the love you give isn’t the same you receive back? People want others to be nice, they want you to show them how much you care about them, but do they give back all that they ask for? Here are some reasons you shouldn’t be so open and nice with your feelings because others don’t care as much as you do.

First, don’t give up too much of your time on people who only want to do their things. Some “friends” or family members only look for you when they need something from you. They don’t want to spend time with you, they want you to do something for them.

Second, when you ask for their help, they are always busy. If they ask you for something and you say you can’t, they get mad at you or start saying you are not a good friend. They can’t understand you have a life too.

Third, they want you to solve their problems. And even if you tell them what to do and if something goes wrong, they blame it on you. We don’t have a crystal ball to predict the future; we are trying to help, ok? So be thankful for that at least.

Fourth, is hard to find someone to trust and when you think you found that person, they always end up saying your problems to others. However, if you do the same, they believe you are a snitch, traitor because anything you do is wrong for them.

Fifth, if they want to do something bad and you don’t join them, you are a boring person. They want you to do it without caring about how you feel. Most of the time “friends” or family members obligate you or push to do things you don’t like. That shouldn’t happen.

Sixth, don’t care too much for others, for example; “I will give this person a ride for this time”, next time she comes and asks you again, but this time you had a long day and you say no. They judge you as mean because you could not do them a favor. Or if they ask you to help them with their homework and you help them once, next time if you don’t do it, they will probably look you bad.

We can’t please others to keep them happy, we are supposed to please ourselves first. It is ok to say no to others because no one will care or love you more than yourself.